Ethical non-monogamy refers to being in an open or poloyamorous relationship more than it refers to swinging but does not necessarily exclude that. A person who identifies as ENM and is partnered is identifying that s/he is already in a primary, nesting relationship.

My point is if someone is in this sort of relationship, even if the other partner is on board, they need to offer another prospective partner more than just the physical love language of physical touch. This also holds true for single people. We all have our baggage and our own lives. Providing value/showing love to a woman in other meaningful ways shows a deeper level of care, love, and respect for the woman.

The other love languages in addition to physical touch are acts of service, words of affirmation, gifts, and quality time. It means genuinely showing up in the relationship and being authentic. I don’t believe all intimate/romantic connections need to be either fleeting or monogamous, but what I am
advocating for is allyship and respectful connection over the more shallow hook up approach.