Exactly, men are encouraged by these dating apps to see women as discardable products for their temporary use. That women asking for any form of gift giving is banned from the platform because of sosta-festa also speaks to how women’s autonomy and subjecthood is being undermined by the interest of our political leaders and by big tech. Any self-aware, actualized man understands that women have certain needs and that love languages are expressed in multiple ways — and that it behooves both people to cultivate a relationship beyond the superficial where each person’s needs are met.