I think the man who’s impregnated you has a lot of maturity, mindfulness, and accountability lacking. You never misrepresented yourself or what you were seeking, and you wouldn’t have become pregnant if he had used condoms or pulled out. It takes two to tango as they say. You and your son deserve better; I hope you can find supportive community at the very least. We live in an incredibly immature culture where men can behave this way and then want no part in their children’s lives. I can relate to having become involved and impregnated by an unavailable man. Though it was not my intention to become pregnant by him, I took it as a blessing and have risen to the responsibility of having to raise my child alone. Nonetheless, I think western cultures need a more collective model of child-rearing. I think the nuclear family, monogamous model is highly flawed, and men not being involved in their child’s lives is a huge cop out. I really hope we see more collective models of living on the rise to support women and mothers particularly, as our labor and energy are so tremendously devalued in this immature patriarchal culture. Wishing you and your son blessings and a healthy, healing future together.