I think your title is misleading and contradicts your point at the end. People should have the autonomy to choose to have children or not, but in an advanced society, everyone helps contribute toward the children’s futures. What is problematic - ad part of what turns so many people away from wanting kids - is the isolated, nuclear family model of raising kids that puts so much financial and energetic strain on parents when there is not built-in community support. We as a society need to do a better job of valuing parents’ labor and of creating communities and support systems for parents and child-rearing/raising.