I’m embarrassed for you. I explicitly stated bars or lounges that have more date-like ambiance are preferable over coffee shops where the vibe is focused on remote work and casual hangs. You seem to miss nuance. Remember what they say about assumptions: “they make an ass of u.” How dare you shame a woman for her views and explicitly state it means I’m determined to be a second-class citizen. I don’t need or want a man paying for me. I do want actual courtship and romance, where we respect one another and try to help each other be our best selves. Clearly young men are not the only ones suffering from the loneliness epidemic. My writing focuses on mindfulness and personal growth, topics you might benefit from exploring more.