It seems in your case you were generous but the relationships lacked something. I am sorry you’ve had those experiences and that they’ve embittered you so.

I am speaking from my own experience as a single, never-married woman, so please don’t project your experiences on me. I am sorry you’ve experienced a sense of being used in your relationships. Part of the point of my article is that we all have different and often multiple love languages, and we all need to be our own best advocates as well as to trust our intuition and to act upon it, voicing our needs to potential or present partners or lovers, and seeking closure when we’re not able to feel that a relationship or interaction benefits us.