My experience hasn't been that men are cruel on dating apps, but more so that many men take liberties and say crass/entitled things to me when we haven't done anything more than message each other. (I.e. men steering the conversation immediately sexual, telling me to dress a certain way for a first date, suggesting I go to his place for a first date... ). I do feel like can people lose their civility to some degree when communicating via from behind screens.