Perhaps you don’t know what you’re talking about. You missed the point of the article. I agree with your sentiments not to focus on looks alone. I’m talking about the energetic vibe of the date: if you want to help set up a vibe for romance, meet in a place that has such atmosphere accordingly. It’s more about the energetic connection, and meeting at a place that is more likely to foster a romantic and energetic connection seems like a no-brainer. Men need to learn to practice mindfulness and step outside of their ego and individual perspective. Wish you well.